ELIZA N HANI

this post is for two birthday girls..................................


HAPPY SMASHING BIRTHDAY TO ELIZA ELAINE

22ND APRIL

AND TO HANI

25TH APRIL

and since the two of you have decided that you both need to lose weight...... ELIZA uve had ur double chin since birth, have you noticed how uve always had it.... and ure still skinnyminny... NO ONE IN THIS ENTIRE WORLD BELIEVES U NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT..... where kan your fat? MACAM NADA SAJA................

and HANI, 25 time to feel ALIVE...... youve been very lucky babe...... god loves you so much that he got rid of a certain pile of DOODOO from your life....... and im sure u realise this.......

HANI, youre not FAT dumb ass bitch, you are robust, like a DAMN GOOD CUP OF JOE nobody actually enjoys LOW-FAT beverages ya know......

SO IN TRIBUTE TO YOUR IDIOTIC NOTIONS OF LOSING WEIGHT I HAVE DEDICATED THE FOLLOWING FOR YOUR ENDEAVOUR................

SOMETIMES LIFE AINT AS SWEET AS IT SHOULD BE, SO GOD INVENTED CAKE.....

YUM YUM...........

HAHAHA..............

LOVE UZ..............

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may all of us bitches get those bad boys with good hearts.. n not be deceived by the good boys with the black hearts

i got a great comment from a friend.............. someone who is right now going through something............ who was a wonderful person as is.... BUT decided, 'as all us girls do' that we dont deserve 'NICE' guys, cause we dont wear tudongs, cause we've had a slighty wild history, that we should change and try to be 'AYU".....

okay maybe some of you cant relate, but Im sure you're not reading this anyways..... hehehe

so yeah, my friend was so ECSTATIC about being with a 'NICE" guy, a 'GOOD' guy........ That she forgot how cool she was herself and decided she had to change.....

why do we always do this.... Instead of waiting for people to judge us, we do it ourselves..... and we decide we are not worthy....its a bit crazy dont you think.......

GOOD AND BAD

As a Bruneian woman, I have had to endure getting compared to GOOD girls on a regular basis.....


and no matter how we try there is always the underlying tone of condescension.... How a GOOD girl acts, how she will wear a tudong, how she will be covered up..... BUT i think its time for us Bruneians to finally see the truth that you should never judge anyone by their cover......




I am not trying to say that all chicks that r covered up are not good, please dont get me wrong, BUT i have met some ppl along the way that never cease to surprise me.... That no matter how 'AYU' or baik USULNYA...... rupa2nya..... its all an act......




HEY, this is only just WOMEN, even the MEN here.....

They act like we have to prove that we are worthy for them, that the woman must be perfect.... RELIGIOUS, pure and clean history, kalau bulih the less the history the better....

Has anyone ever really looked at what makes a happy marriage, relationship, whatever.... How come we never look at, PERSONALITY, COMPASSION and for me most importantly INTEGRITY....... Lets start looking on the inside of people and stop deciding before they even open their mouths that we dont like them.....


So how about we do this…… You might think that Im the …….. GASP…….



THE DEVIL



And I am a BAD GIRL


But at least im honest, what you SEE is what you GET. ALL I NEED TO SAY NOW, IS FOR THOSE OUT THERE WHO FEEL IM BEING HARSH, THEN UVE NEVER BEEN WHERE IVE BEEN, I SPEAK FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY SO UZ CAN ALL JUST....................

HELLO

This post is especially for YANI............

babe, Im fine, Im sorry Ive disappeared off the face of the planet, but Im finally in a relationship..... its amazing.... SERIOUSLY..... after seven years of bullshit.... Im finally with someone worthwhile..... So now sweetheart, Im as boring as you and monster.... HAHAHA....

Its weird how before I'd wanna tell everyone about the smallest detail, now I dont wanna jinx it... BUT, he's making up for the seven years... I kid you not.....

I finally get to be in a mature relationship.... can you bloody believe it?

I never realised how transparent I am to my family and close friends, Ive heard comments on how I was bitter, a cynic, how everyone saw through my facade.... And I thought I was doing alright GOD DAMN IT....... hahaha, but its great babe....

Hopefully get to visit you people in the near future, and I'll definately bring the bugger along.... Give my love to monsta n tisha......

I was having a conversation with my most FAVOURITE person in the world just now and she said something that just rang a bell......

"You know how we always said we would never need a man, well maybe cause we never met the right MAN."

AMAZING the amount of crap you come up with while having coffee, but this was so true, I just couldnt ignore it....


Its true I dont need ANY man, but I do WANT this one.....

PMS

I seriously am PMSing.... for all you women out there you know what Im talking about..... Im annoyed with so many people around me right now....


Even strangers, I need to get a grip..... SERIOUSLY


Im gonna take a deep breath and just gonna let this all go.......... Dont look for problems right????

But yeah, LIFE IS FANTASTIC........ I dont think it could get any better....

Thank you god..... I am thankful for everything.... its amazing....

ainul

AINUL ........ babe havent heard from in ages

"I forgot you have to accomodate that other person in your life, I think Ive forgotten how to do it..... Make room but not lose yourself... HELLO, once you lose who you used to be, the person that attracted him in the first place is gone.But Its all worth it, RIGHT?"


Its amazing the number of people that read my blog.... hahaha.... Its just a place that i ramble you know....

But its true what ainul says....... Its hard to accomodate the other person in your life.... Well not hard but ultimately, u gotta juggle some stuff around.... and stuff you thought were an essential part of day to day, you realise, arent priorities anymore.....

and i think well maybe cause I was alone, I needed to keep myself busy......

But when uve been single for as long as i have, you kinda have an illusion of MAGIC and background music from your latest romance movie.... HELLO havent heard it yet.... hahaha...

Ive read many many books and many many magazines and articles, you name it, ive read it.... But I will agree to that book...... 'HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU'

believe me its so true.... when the man is into you... you will know... and ive been ovecompensating for years and years, making up excuses, putting in all the effort, one sided affairs.... its almost embarassing, but its the truth

make it easy

those close to me know that I am a romantic, I read romance novels, I want to be saved by a knight in shining armor........slay them dragons, kill the beasts, feed em to the lions.....


I have been waiting for my day to fall inlove, pathetic? Lets just be honest, ok fine I'll be, den u guys can just pretend that u dont agree.

from the age of 18 onwards, I was so strong in my belief that I would never NEED a man.... NOPE NO WAY NO NEVER.... and the people around agreed. I could succeed without one... blah blah blah....

I hit 25, then I realised something else, I am smart, confident and have had some successes in my life, but then u realise, TICK TOCK TICK TOCK... whats that... my BIO-logical clock.... ah man.... Thats exactly it... oh MAN, a MAN... yes yes feminists are swooning right now, IM sure, so sue me, my blog, my opinion....

But I realised that theres a reason why women are the ones that get pregnant... so that the men can go out and work and provide the finances... roof, clothes, food, blah blah blah. Its simple.... men need women, women need men, no im not ignoring my extra special cases of the same sex relationships, but hey one still takes the role of the man, one takes the role of the woman.... right? right!!!!!

Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated. Confucius

Style is a simple way of saying complicated things. Jean Cocteau

so back to the topic at hand......

I am a woman, I want to be inlove, be loved, be in a commited relationship..... or so I thought......

Love is the beauty of the soul. Saint Augustine

Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up. James A. Baldwin

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. Aristotle

Love that is not madness is not love. Pedro Calderon de la Barca

The best proof of love is trust. Joyce Brothers

Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life. Leo Buscaglia




But we always forget everything else that comes with LOVE...... Your whole world shifts and then things that never used to bother u r suddenly a big ASS deal.... Like why hasnt he called, what do i do now that hes not around... BODOH kan... and I usually can live day to day by myself.... Yes I have a LIFE!!! But once ure so used to being single for so long, you do what you have to do to survive.....

I forgot you have to accomodate that other person in your life, I think Ive forgotten how to do it..... Make room but not lose yourself... HELLO, once you lose who you used to be, the person that attracted him in the first place is gone. But Its all worth it, RIGHT?

the greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain


love means exposing yourself to the pain of being hurt, deeply hurt by someone you trust

FAIR????

To all the men who will enjoy reading it, and to all the women whocan handle it:


WHY MEN ARE JUST HAPPIER PEOPLE ????


What do you expect from such simple creatures?

Your last name stays put.

The garage is all yours.

Wedding plans take care of themselves.

Chocolate is just another snack.

You can be President.

You can never be pregnant.

You can wear a white T-shirt to a water park.

You can wear NO shirt to a water park.

Car mechanics tell you the truth.

You never have to drive to another petrol station toilet because this one is just too dirty.

You don't have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt.

Same work, more pay.

Wrinkles add character.

Wedding dress costs $1500. A Tux rental is only $100.

People never stare at your chest when you're talking to them.

The occasional well-rendered belch is practically expected.

New shoes don't cut, blister, or mangle your feet.

You have one mood all the time.

Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.

You know stuff about tanks.

A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase.

You can open all your own jars.

You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.

If someone forgets to invite you, he or she can still be your friend.

Three pairs of shoes are more than enough.

You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes.

Everything on your face stays its original colour.

The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades.

You only have to shave your face and neck.

You can play with toys all your life.

Your belly usually hides your big hips.

You need only one wallet and one pair of shoes.

You want only one colour for all seasons.

You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look!

You can "do" your nails with a penknife.

You?have freedom of choice concerning growing a moustache.

You don't freak out when you go to a party and see anotherman wearing the same shirt, instead you become buddies.



No WONDER men are happier...

25 Reasons Why You Should Start Drinking Green Tea Now


Green tea has increasingly become a very popular drink worldwide because of its immensely powerful health benefits. It is extraordinarily amazing what green tea can do for your health. And if you're not drinking 3 to 4 cups of green tea today, you're definitely NOT doing your health a big favor.

Here Are The 25 Reasons Why You Should Start Drinking Green Tea Right Now:

1. Green Tea and Cancer Green tea helps reduce the risk of cancer. The antioxidant in green tea is 100 times more effective than vitamin C and 25 times better than vitamin E. This helps your body at protecting cells from damage believed to be linked to cancer.

2. Green Tea and Heart Disease Green tea helps prevent heart disease and stroke by lowering the level of cholesterol. Even after the heart attack, it prevents cell deaths and speeds up the recovery of heart cells.

3. Green Tea and Anti-Aging Green tea contains antioxidant known as polyphenols which fight against free radicals. What this means it helps you fight against aging and promotes longevity.

4. Green Tea and Weight Loss Green tea helps with your body weight loss. Green tea burns fat and boosts your metabolism rate naturally. It can help you burn up to 70 calories in just one day. That translates to 7 pounds in one year.

5. Green Tea and Skin Antioxidant in green tea protects the skin from the harmful effects of free radicals, which cause wrinkling and skin aging. Green tea also helps fight against skin cancer.

6. Green Tea and Arthritis Green tea can help prevent and reduce the risk of rheumatoid arthritis. Green tea has benefit for your health as it protects the cartilage by blocking the enzyme that destroys cartilage.

7. Green Tea and Bones The very key to this is high fluoride content found in green tea. It helps keep your bones strong. If you drink green tea every day, this will help you preserve your bone density.

8. Green Tea and Cholesterol Green tea can help lower cholesterol level. It also improves the ratio of good cholesterol to bad cholesterol, by reducing bad cholesterol level.

9. Green Tea and Obesity Green tea prevents obesity by stopping the movement of glucose in fat cells. If you are on a healthy diet, exercise regularly and drink green tea, it is unlikely you'll be obese.

10. Green Tea and Diabetes Green tea improves lipid and glucose metabolisms, prevents sharp increases in blood sugar level, and balances your metabolism rate.

11. Green Tea and Alzheimer's Green tea helps boost your memory. And although there's no cure for Alzheimer's, it helps slow the process of reduced acetylcholine in the brain, which leads to Alzheimer's.

12. Green Tea and Parkinson's Antioxidants in green tea helps prevent against cell damage in the brain, which could cause Parkinson's. People drinking green tea also are less likely to progress with Parkinson's.

13. Green Tea and Liver Disease Green tea helps prevent transplant failure in people with liver failure. Researches showed that green tea destroys harmful free radicals in fatty livers.

14. Green Tea and High Blood Pressure Green tea helps prevent high blood pressure. Drinking green tea helps keep your blood pressure down by repressing angiotensin, which leads to high blood pressure.

15. Green Tea and Food Poisoning Catechin found in green tea can kill bacteria which causes food poisoning and kills the toxins produced by those bacteria.

16. Green Tea and Blood Sugar Blood sugar tends to increase with age, but polyphenols and polysaccharides in green tea help lower your blood sugar level.

17. Green Tea and Immunity Polyphenols and flavenoids found in green tea help boost your immune system, making your health stronger in fighting against infections.

18. Green Tea and Cold and Flu Green tea prevents you from getting a cold or flu. Vitamin C in green tea helps you treat the flu and the common cold.

19. Green Tea and Asthma Theophylline in green tea relaxes the muscles which support the bronchial tubes, reducing the severity of asthma.

20. Green Tea and Ear Infection Green tea helps with ear infection problem. For natural ear cleaning, soak a cutton ball in green tea and clean the infected ear.

21. Green Tea and Herpes Green tea increases the effectiveness of topical interferon treatment of herpes. First green tea compress is applied, and then let the skin dry before the interferon treatment.

22. Green Tea and Tooth Decay Green tea destroys bacteria and viruses that cause many dental diseases. It also slows the growth of bacteria which leads to bad breath.

23. Green Tea and Stress L-theanine, which is a kind of amino acids in green tea, can help relieve stress and anxiety

24. Green Tea and Allergies EGCG found in green tea relieves allergies. So, if you have allergies, you should really consider drinking green tea.

25. Green Tea and HIV Scientists in Japan have found that EGCG (Epigallocatechin Gallate) in green tea can stop HIV from binding to healthy immune cells. What this means is that green tea can help stop the HIV virus from spreading.


Now, your health is in your hands. You know you're smart. So, start drinking three to four cups of green tea every day for a drug-free and healthier YOU!

Pursuit of Happiness

I just finished watching the PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS, starring Will Smith and his son Jaden

Once in a while we get movies that makes us realise how much we dont appreciate our own lives, we're always so caught up in the how bad my life is, etc, etc, etc....... And we always forget to appreciate what we have already.

Anybody watch CLICK? Being an Adam Sandler movie, I though yeah, cool, something lighthearted and funny. YAY.... Surprise surprise.... Hey it was between that or LAKEHOUSE, if u hadnt read any of the reviews and u just saw this.....

of course ud pick.....CLICK right, right?

Anyways, movies like this I love cause you realise so many things, like with PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS, this was my mum... she would sacrifice everything for her children, as long as we were happy she would be you know. Growing up this way, I stupidly thought that everybody else was this fortunate. My late dad, yes he wasnt perfect, but he would not allow anyone, and I mean ANYONE to come between him and his children, someone told him not to see his kids, they better watch out. And eventhough he didnt know how to show love or communicate, hello he was malay, bruneian and from tutong..... He did what he could. and what I used to think was not enough, is actually ALOT more then what 50% of the world has.

Mr Pablo, from (http://world-of-pablo.blogspot.com/), who is actually a dear dear relative of mine, said that we should try to share our experiences, we might be able to help someone that way. So here goes.

If you havent already noticed, a man having more then one wife is now sadly the norm here. And many of us have brothers and sisters from different mothers. OK fine if you guys dont i definately do.

In some cases our parents try to prolong the misery by staying together for the childrens sake. Not realising that by staying together, their constant fighting, bickering, the tension, affects the kids more then a divorce would. The stress of staying together makes you guys worse parents. Hey Im not saying give up, but make a concious effort to work it out, not just ignore ignore ignore as always happens. Kelahi, ignore, kelahi ignore, MAU CHA BAIK TU YO. During this whole process you guys are so busy trying to kill each other that we usually get forgotten.... DO YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. Im glad my parents did get divorced. It was a bit WWF in the house ya know....

I digress.....

ok, my point is... HAPPINESS.... If someone asked me what made me happy? what would I say? what would you say?

How about, have you ever been truly truly happy ever?????

Or one moment in your life that you can truthfully say to urself, yup I am happy, I was happy, I will be happy..... Atu banyak lah, I will be happy if, but I think thats our problem. How about we start thinking about and appreciating what we already have.....

OK I'LL START......

ONE MOMENT TODAY (OR YESTERDAY)

1. YOU'VE BEEN REALLY HAPPY

2. YOU'VE TRULY TRULY LAUGHED

3. YOU'VE REALLY REALLY SMILED

4. THAT U R REALLY THANKFUL FOR ( THIS ONE CAN BE MORE THAN 1)

Once youve done this, mebe you and me both will start feeling happier about where we r in life, even though some of us maybe going through a rough patch.......

everything has a reason I always say.....

THINK ABOUT IT

Me n my cousins did something really crazy the other day.......


But will blog about it later

Im going through a rocky patch right now.... but you know when words just elude you, you might as well surf for some good quotes..........

Sholom Aleichem:
No matter how bad things get, you got to go on living, even if it kills you

Elbert Hubbard:
Life is just one damned thing after another.

John Lennon:
Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.

Robert Frost:
In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.


and why do we always have to be in constant search of LOVE.... its always like that isnt it......


C.S. Lewis:
Why love if losing hurts so much? We love to know that we are not alone.

Robert Heinlein:
Love is a condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.

Ann Landers:
If you have love in your life it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don't have it, no matter what else there is, it's not enough.

C.S. Lewis:
Why love if losing hurts so much? We love to know that we are not alone.

Don Byas:
You call it madness, but I call it love.

Felix Adler:
Love is the expansion of two natures in such fashion that each include the other, each is enriched by the other.

Francis David:
We need not think alike to love alike.

Franklin P. Jones:
Love doesn't make the world go 'round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile

normality

Yesterday someone asked me how the wedding was,and i replied truthfully, its was

WONDERFUL, BEAUTIFUL, IM GLAD ITS OVER, IM SAD WE'RE DONE, HAPPY, FUN, FRUSTRATING, BAGI MARAH, SASAK, SIOK, NGALIH, EXCITING.....

but basically we all felt those emotions, from being really tired and irritable to crying tears of joy. I guess all weddings are like this.

You truly gain so much from weddings, the family got close again, we joked argued, smiled, fought, gossiped bout each other behind their backs, loved, hated all togeder-geder you know.

But it also reminded me how beautiful our culture truly is, from ami ali carrying jenny to the pelamin, to nini uncu throwing 'beras kuning' before allowing ridha to enter the house.

I recently discovered that the HADRAH boys, one from the girls side one from the boys, they meet upon the day of the bersanding. and what happens is the hadrah from the boys side start playing first, as soon as they do that the ones from the girl's side will play a different song.then whoever loses the beat first LOSES.... Thats what i would call a BATTLE!!!!! We the original 8MILE.... hahaha

has been a very busy week.... Jenny got married.... and since the other bloggers have done sucha fantastic job, I jus have to link u guys..... great ah.... so if u wanna see some pictures, please go to

http://world-of-pablo.blogspot.com/,
http://www.whatibought2day.blogspot.com/
http://emmagoodegg.blogs.com/,
http://bruneiforever.org/,
http://ranoadidas.com/,
http://anakbrunei.blogspot.com/,
http://zadm.blogspot.com/,
http://ucingitam.blogspot.com/

im trying to get some of the pics off these guys.....

Alot of you out there keep saying it was a 'CELEBRITY WEDDING' you know what seriously made it a celebrity wedding is all you wonderful bloggers out there.... MY FAMILY cannot thank you enough, thank you for making the wedding extra special. Thank you for giving Jenny the recognition she deserves. Cause she sometimes feels that she isnt a celebrity, but she is isnt she......

Thank you to all the boys from the studio, without you we wouldnt have had any entertainment at all..... or any sound...

NIKAH

RIDHA NERVOUS EH..... I heard his hands were COLD brabis
the three sisters.......
this is the coolest antaran man.... jennifer u rock eh......

mandi belawat

SO HERE ARE SOME QUICK PICTURES OF JENNY'S BEDAK MANDI......


WILL UPLOAD MORE LATER( taken by my cousin bang ryzel)

the meeting

so we had a meeting/briefing...... man my family really likes meetings....... and they really love the sound of their own voices.... goddamn it eh......

behind the scenes

the pay-la-mine

today ladies and gentlemen we will be looking at the setting up of jenny's pelamin, happened on saturday, 24th feb 2007